Hey, you’re cordially invited to my wedding video!
The venue could also be beautifully decorated, all glittery with lights; pulsating music may fill the air; mouth-watering food could also be served. But the chatter of guests won’t send the decibel levels up at big fat Indian weddings — a minimum of not within the foreseeable future.
A society that pulls out all the stops to celebrate a wedding is now trying to adapt to small, intimate ceremonies and virtual vows.
Newly-married couple Anshula Verma and Parth Dawar said theirs was a well-thought-out decision to choose a ‘virtual wedding’.
“With the ever-rising number of COVID-19 cases in Mumbai, we do not know when things will revisit to normal. Moreover, we’ve many aged relatives; we didn’t want them to risk attending our wedding. So, we went ahead with a virtual wedding where only a couple of close relatives were present and therefore the remainder of the guests were on Zoom calls. the whole experience was nice and different. But yes, there have been some technical glitches thanks to slow internet speed sometimes,” says the bride Anshula, a happiness coach.
Interestingly, for an additional Mumbai-based couple, Kasheesh Mallik and Abdullah, who also got married recently, a virtual wedding was the last option. “Our wedding dates were fixed and that we didn’t want to postpone it. So we decided to travel ahead.
Being within the industry of wedding planning ourselves, it wasn’t that difficult to organise our own virtual wedding. We did a really intimate nikah with close relatives after we got an NoC from our society. Our relatives took on the responsibility of 1 task or the opposite . The three-day ceremony was well attended by guests on zoom calls — right from the mehendi session to the haldi ceremony and therefore the wedding,” says Kasheesh.
On the technical side, we had placed cameras at different angles to capture the moments within the best way possible. We also arranged a run through of how a Zoom call works for our guests much before the marriage date. it had been not in the least stressful,” adds Kasheesh, the co-owner of Topnotch Events.
According to Geeta Ratwani, owner of MyEventz, virtual weddings are the simplest alternative for couples who don’t want to play the wait-and-watch game. “Due to the continued pandemic, people are frightened of venturing out and attending any large social affair . Virtual weddings can have a couple of close people attending and other guests can watch the rituals from their own homes,” she explains.
“When we started taking over virtual weddings and other events, it had been difficult,” she shares.
“But now I even have my team in situ and everything is streamlined — we plan every single little bit of the event, even as we did earlier. As of now we’ve organised about 20 virtual events, including weddings, birthdays and company dos. We are in talks with five-star hotels for food delivery to round-off the celebratory mood,” she adds. But in fact there’s a flip side — the shortage of intimacy. “I are hearing about virtual weddings for a short time now, and eventually got an opportunity to attend one a couple of weeks ago,” says Satrupa Arora, blogger.
“It was a live streaming video, with a couple of family members; obviously everything was sort of a traditional Indian wedding — the dazzling décor, colourful ceremonies, gorgeous garlands and people validating vows. But the one thing that was missing was the texture ,” she shares.
“Indian weddings are all about emotions, and one can never experience that virtually. Sitting ahead of a laptop, all dressed up, and not physically participating within the drama, is no fun,” she explains. Acknowledging that event planners had undoubtedly left no stone unturned to form the occasion as on the brink of the normal kind as possible, she said “We got the return gifts via courier; sweets were delivered at the doorstep, but the live experience are some things you can’t rekindle.”
Echoing these sentiments, Shrawan Yadav, director, Shubh Muhurat Luxury Weddings, says, “Weddings have always been grand in India.
With the lockdown and other restrictions in situ , it’s difficult to urge an equivalent feeling through a virtual wedding. Even once we connect guests through zoom calls and found out LED screens at the venue in order that the couple and therefore the guests can interact, not many are hooked in to it, because the feel is lost. Only time will tell if Indians will actually embrace the new normal or not when it involves celebrations.”(FA9News)